If you believe you have problems in your relationship, the following is a quick questionnaire you can complete which will help focus on the major areas of a relationship that need to be strong to result in happiness for you both.
Consideration of these areas will help reveal to you whether you need marriage or relationship help.
THE HART RELATIONSHIP QUALITY QUESTIONNAIRE:
CARING
What degree of caring and affection do you display to your partner?
How much caring and affection does your partner show towards you?
How much do you spontaneously give to and nurture one another:
With you giving?
With you receiving?
COMMUNICATION
How naturally do either of you:
Talk about and make practical arrangements?
Talk about how you really feel?
Feel able to bring up issues in the relationship, and resolve them?
Share your dreams and future?
Let you partner know how deeply you appreciate him or her?
What do you believe your partner does/says or doesn’t do to stop you naturally relating well?
Can you remark on what it is that you do or say or don’t do which stops open communication?
Are you aware if you may jump to conclusions or interpretations about things your partner says?
FUN AND ROMANCE
How often do you share enjoyable and playful things together?
What do each one of you do to keep romance alight?
SEX
Is there passion in your relationship?
How fulfilled are you with your sex life?
INDIVIDUAL NEEDS
To what degree do you enjoy your own time alone and individuality?
To what degree do you accept your partner’s need for time alone?
To what degree are you happy to take care of your own needs and wants?
EQUALITY AND RESPECT
Do you, as a couple consciously share responsibilities?
Are you approximately equal regarding performing the “liked” and “not liked” roles and responsibilities?
POLARISATION
Are there any traits your partner has that annoys you?
DIFFERENTIATION
Are there areas within your relationship where you give in without wanting to, or your partner dominates?
Are there areas in which you may control your partner?
If you have found that several of these questions have raised issues for you, then counselling will be able to help you to explore these and get your relationship or marriage back on track.
For marriage and relationship counselling specialists in Sydney, Adelaide and Melbourne, call the Hart Centre. We are a committed team of Psychologists specializing in relationship and marriage counselling with 15 locations in Sydney, 12 locations in Melbourne and 2 in Adelaide.
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